I am feeling nervous in the lead up to our booking. What should I do?

Nerves are pretty normal in the lead up to a booking (I have experienced them myself! You can read about my experiences as a client here and here).

I do think it is worth pushing through the nerves to see whether seeing a sex worker suits you. However, I am aware that for some people nerves can make things feel impossible! You can cancel (read my policy here), or alternatively you can switch our booking to a social 1hr booking (costing $200 AUD) – these bookings give you a chance to get to know me and whether you feel comfortable with me.

If you do decide to go ahead with the booking, then let me know you are feeling apprehensive about our time together so I know what kind of mindset you are in.

What kind of clients do you see?

All kinds! I see clients of all genders, ages, races, abilities and body types.

How can you guarantee discretion?

I use encrypted email (kitbauer@protonmail.com). You can make a protonmail account and our communications will be encrypted end-to-end. I also use an encrypted messaging service called signal. You can message my number (+61 414 235 959) on signal for encrypted end-to-end messaging.

If I am hosting our meeting, then I use discreet apartments that you should be able to come and go from with ease.

If I have asked you to supply screening information (such as ID), then I keep these to guarantee my safety during a booking. I keep these in my encrypted email and delete them after the booking.

If you have any other questions, then please ask me directly.

How do you manage my right to consent during a booking?

Sex can be very vulnerable for a lot of people, and your enthusiastic consent and comfort is important to me.

At any point in the booking you can ask me to stop, or you can use the traffic light system of safe words (green = good, orange = not so good/can we change what we are doing, red = stop everything immediately). If you ask to stop what we are doing, I will be grateful that you have shared this with me. We can talk about it or simply do something different depending on your needs.

How do I know you are real?

I have a considerable online presence which would be difficult to fake. Between my advertising with testimonials, porn and twitter you can get a sense of who I am and verify that I am indeed real.

Do you tour?

Rarely. I travel to Auckland a few times a year and to Sydney on occasion. Visits to other cities are few and far between. If you would like to see me then I recommend booking a fly-me-to-you booking.

Do you offer discounts?

Yes, I offer discounts to women, trans and gender non-conforming people. I know that the sex industry is largely built to cater to heterosexual men. I offer discounts to others in an effort to reduce the barriers other genders have in accessing sex workers.

What kind of services do you offer?

Unfortunately, due to state legislation I cannot list my services.

Also, I am not sure if a list is entirely suited to discussing services. I find bookings tend to go well when you (the client) tells me if you are interested in something in particular or whether you just want to give yourself a treat. Then I can tell you whether I have experience in what you are looking for and whether we are likely to be a good fit. If I cannot meet your needs, I will do my best to refer you to someone who can.

Most of my bookings tend to involve sensual touch and some elements of light kink (for example, play with toys, role play, sensation play).

What kind of bookings do you offer? I would like to do a mix of social and intimate time can we do that?

Check out this page. I offer bookings with couples, social bookings and have other sex workers that I like to work with. However, if you have something in mind that you don’t see on this page (for example, an activity like going to a gig, talk, exhibition, movie) then please ask me directly.

You are hosting, what should I bring?

Just yourself! I will have towels and toiletries.

If you feel like it, you are welcome to bring a drink to share. If the weather is warm I like sparkling wine or beer, if the weather is cooler I like pinot noir or whiskey.

We are going on a dinner date and I have no idea what kind of restaurant to book. Help!

Some suggestions in the CBD: City Wine Shop, Cookie, Mamasita, Lucy Liu, Fonda, Gazi, SPQR Pizzeria.

I have no allergies or dietary restrictions, but tend not to eat a lot of red meat.

I would love to get you a gift. What kind of things do you like?

Thanks so much! Books! If you would like to pick something for me then anything on philosophy or history is a safe bet. I also read short stories before bed so anthologies are most welcome. If you would like to get a voucher then Readings or Dymocks is perfect.

If you are in the mood to get me something to play with, I love Passionfruit Sensuality Shop and Nikki Darling online store.

Can I leave you a testimonial?

Thank you for taking the time to do this! Please do so directly on my Scarlet Blue page.

You haven’t answered my question. Is it okay to ask you a question before I commit to making a booking?

Sure, submit a question through this form here.